You know what is really nice? The fact that we are different beings, but we are all human.
If you are reading this, please take a seat, it might take longer than you think… and maybe a drink, get a drink.
So I haven’t blogged in a few months because of this and that but throughout that whole period, I knew what I wanted to write about, I just needed more time to observe everything around me, I wanted to “research”, I wanted to see the patterns over and over again . The patterns of our fellow brethren who mess up in life and treat people badly and hide behind the “we are not raised the same” phrase. I mean duh, of course we are not raised the same, we are not from the same tribe, we are not the same people.
It is so sad to see people who lack home training behave like victims of some sort, victims of the earth. Who does not know that PLEASE and THANK YOU are magic words that will take you far in life? Who does not know that “I am sorry” and NO can be used and your tongue won’t fall off your mouth…?
So guess what, there are people in this era who do not know when and how to use these words. Basic home training and manners. Haaaa- I’m still shocked. But then again, people aren’t raised the same. People grow over the years and experience situations that mould them into different kind of creatures. Situations that make them kind people. Situations that make them want to be better, do better. A bad upbringing can amount to bad character, but that does not make anybody less human. We are all human. we all want respect. we all want empathy. we all want a sense of belonging, but most importantly we all need love.
I know that we are different. I know that backgrounds are not the same.I know that life is hard and does not always go according to plan but let us learn the importance of humanity- not just the helping part of it but to be able to interact with people. Learn that speaking properly is not harmful. Acts of kindness make an impact. Let us learn that what may be important to the next person is not of any importance to me, but that does not mean I get to degrade them, criticise them or disrespect them. I have been told so many times that the reason people walk all over me and take advantage is because I don’t set boundaries. Fine that may be true, but also shouldn’t a normal person be able to realise that ‘ei, I’ve crossed the line’ or ‘ei what I am doing isn’t right’ or maybe our ideas of what normal should be are not the same? But no guys hence this is called basic humanity concepts, it’s mandatory. Everybody knows the saying “do unto others as you would like them to do unto you” it’s not Greek. Practice it. It is so absurd to tell adults the bare minimum that they should already know. Basic human behaviour. Practice it.
There are certain issues that shouldn’t even be raised by adults just because the other being chooses to be selfish. Stop being selfish. Stop using people. Stop victimizing yourself unnecessarily when shit hits the fan, the world does not owe you anything. Stop using hurtful words to address people. Stop taking people’s things and giving nothing back, no matter who they are to you, Stop it. You do not like it when people talk to you bad, when people do you dirty so why do it to the next person?
Sibadala. There are certain traits we need to throw away before we pass them unto our offspring. Learn to be nice. Use affirmative words. Teach yourself basic home and human training because wow, our children cannot be associated with the likes of mini-you’s without manners. And if being humble and polite is not your thing, please kindly stay away from people.
Being raised differently should not be used as an excuse to lack humanity, if you know you lack training, ask somebody to guide you. If you know somebody who lacks training, teach them❤ it’s not that difficult, trust me.
Let us learn to be better people & do better things, a society abundant in peace & respect would really go a long way.
Stop leaving your manners at home, you need them more outside.- FIONA NTEBENI